"Time portal" - Annalogue75 © Original 2023 via Creative Fabrica Spark™.
I'm not talking about inappropriate, rude or intrusive questions. I'm talking about those that have no answer, have no meaning, and/or are unnecessary. Let me explain my line of thought...
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I favor open-ended questions about most things, including clarification and follow up questions. Many times "simple" yes-or-no questions are impossible to really answer, there's a complexity in life that really doesn't do well with such simplified responses.
But there are times when it is the open-ended questions that causes the real trouble. One example is the dreaded job interview question -
"Say x positive/negative things about yourself." 😬
How can anyone really answer that?!
"Can I use 'Call A Friend'?" is my knee jerk response - clever but not always, rarely, almost never, the smartest... 😏 I don't think I've ever actually given a straight answer to that or similar questions.
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Another doozy line of questions are those general ones about the past. People want to know about my childhood, or my 20's...?! Uhm..., I don't know. Maybe I was born just yesterday, fully grown and with children? Because I don't remember specific times or events or situations. Unless you give me a prompt first, purposely or inadvertently, I have general amnesia. So just don't, ok. No questions about my 7th birthday or how I liked high school. Because I don't know, it's like it never happened. And for a significant portion of my childhood that is for the best, trust me.
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Finally I would like to push for abolishing any questions about what I want, need, think, or feel before everyone else involved have said their piece.
I know, I know, I got to work on my assertiveness and all that. But I don't really feel as if my wants, needs, thoughts, or feelings are any less important, I'm just flexible and willing to compromise and adjust so everyone is as happy as possible, myself included.
I know, I know, I'm just that weird... I'll get back to the assertiveness and all that in a later blog (I had an epiphany about that! lol).
I am not saying I'm incredibly altruistic, because I do care and push for my own agenda for my own benefit just like everyone else. But I do it behind the scenes and very subtle. I don't see why any of that is a big deal, so I don't make it one.
So if I signal that anyone else but me should have a say before I speak, then please don't push it! It's annoying... It's disrespectful... It's unnecessary waste of time...
I wonder if others have thought about this?
/Annalogue75
