"Xmas Chaos" by Annalogue75 © Original 2023/24 via Creative Fabrica Spark™ and InShot™
I felt the quote below so strong I had to write something about it as I shared the original post done by ADDitude on LinkedIn. I will never understand why it is so difficult to understand the differences and difficulties we have due to ADHD. It should be easy, especially for family and friends. But it's really difficult since it's invisible and because of our ADHD masking. It makes us feel even more like outsiders and not as good as the rest of you people. It can't be talked about enough!
This is what I spontaneously wrote as I shared this post and article...
“ADHD doesn't always look like a kid who can't stay still and is bouncing out of their seat. Sometimes it means feeling completely overwhelmed with the world around you and all the things you are supposed to accomplish within it, and feeling like a failure because everyone seems to be able to do things you can't."
So often, actually mostly, I feel like this. Both regarding doing things and regarding interpersonal communication and relationships.
"Everyone else" can but I can never.."
Then I look around and find the same "everyone" battling their own wars, failing when doing their best, losing in relationships, not being as put together and efficient as they want you to see. We're basically all the same.
We all do our best, and the generalization is so damaging, especially when we think we need to find our value by comparing ourselves to others. Sometimes we just NEED to have a meltdown, pull up our bloomers, and get right back at it again - never losing the sight of our goal, ready to act and move forward again.
After that the neurotypical "everyone" crowd surely judges us, we think -"meltdowns are weaknesses", "you are not worthy of our attention", "no goals, no grit, just baby tears, you're one big fail" and so we begin the dance again...
Just remember, you're not alone. We're everywhere and we see you, we feel that too, we know. And you can do it. Promise!
Happy Holidays,
Annalogue75
